Big City Woman Looks For Love

Are you finished or almost finished with school? Do you believe that there is an emotional void in your life that only a mate can fill? You are not alone. After spending the last eight years in college winning awards and building relationships with friends and family I made a startling revelation. I am often alone when I first find out exciting news including receipt of a professional accolade or a discovery on my road to personal growth. I want to jump up and scream for joy. I want to run and tell someone the news. But no one is near me.

I call my sister and parents. They answer the phone or are not available. They can’t see my facial reactions. They are not immediately around to take care of me if I get sick. They are family. I love them. However, when your heart chooses the correct romantic partner the partner knows what you are going to say before you say it. They are the biggest human influencer of your spiritual well-being- and you are their biggest.

After giving up on dating almost a year ago my roommate confronted me. She told me to stop staying in my room all of the time and actually leave the house. The next morning I took her to the airport and returned to church.

Upon leaving the church a young man came out of nowhere! We’ve been dating ever since! The young man said that he liked the way that I dressed and the fact that I gave him advice when he was trying to talk to me.

Large cities are havens for young professionals on-the-go. Colleges are everywhere. 24-hour fast food eateries abound. Corporations of various sizes are within a mile radius of most neighborhoods.

How can a young person living in a large city make time for love? I have four tips for attracting love into your life!

Realize that you want a permanent romantic partner. The long-time void you have experienced will not be fixed with temporary pleasures. Count the people in your life that you have the closest relationship to. Are one of these people your best friend? Can this best friend be the sole human person in charge of your spiritual well-being (outside of yourself)? If not, find a romantic partner.

Exit social media. In preparing to make yourself available to date avoid extensive conversations through dating sites. Find an activity outside of work or school to involve yourself with. Meet someone on a dating site and go on a date soon after introducing yourself on the site. First impressions are gauged correctly in person. You can observe body language, which exudes confidence and evidence of lying. Also, written words from someone you don’t know can be misunderstood.

Use your one free day per week to date. Singles are often single when they do not make time to date. Make time. Work the person into your schedule. Use this action as a test to see if the person can hang in through the ups and downs of your daily schedule on non-date days.

Be patient. The art of dating helps us to prepare for that one special person. Take notes while you’re on those dates before you fall in love. And while you’re patient don’t waste time on someone who doesn’t make your pheremones go crazy without physical touch!

Happy Dating!

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