Soulmates In God's Timing

God wants to be part of your life. Especially your romantic life. It pains me to see the many educated, successful young people who are constantly getting divorces and/or having children with someone who they are not sure that they are in love with. It is critical that we do the best we can to make these sort of life decisions with someone who is our best friend. This person should be someone who we are physically attracted to and that we cannot see ourselves spending a day without.

Dating is the first step in the process to narrowing down. My journey through the friendship and dating process continues to be interesting.

I spoke to my ex-boyfriend over the phone (due to a long-distance situation) of and on for months after a breakup was overdue. He previously yelled at me in public. He walked away from me in disgust in public. I even said things to my ex that I should not have said to him. All in public.

I know alot of divorced middle-aged and elderly people. I’ve seen the impact that marriage and companionship can do to help finances, spiritual health and emotional maturity. The people I know that are married are not perfect. However, they have a daily reminder of how much they need to work on their imperfections. A companion to lean on when most people in this cold world don’t care to hear you tell another story about the same topic.

My justification for staying with my boyfriend was that I didn’t want to be lonely. I wanted someone to give me constructive criticism. I wanted a best friend. I didn’t want a drop off in those activities.

And for the most part my ex-boyfriend was that. But the most embarrassing happenings- like embarrassing me in front of his male friends at the Los Angeles County Museum of Art- cannot and should not be excused.

I told God that I would stop talking to my ex-boyfriend if he sent another guy for me to speak with. My requirements included a lifelong friend or someone that I could see as a potential husband and lifelong friend. And God did send me a new potential lifelong male friend!

We are not dating but he is a great friend. He’s ran errands for me, spent time with me even though he has a busy schedule. My new friend makes me laugh. God has used him to show me that there are better people in the world-more reliable and respectable. Someone who can teach me something about the world and different cultures as my new friend is Haitian and speaks four languages. There is even more added value to his life experience because he was an entrepreneur that used to travel frequently for work. He is someone who is educated. I like being around someone who adds value to my life instead of detracting from it.

I met this new person at my job. A series of mishaps that could have been avoided by both of us but were divinely orchestrated brought he and I to the same lunchroom in June.

We are soulmate friends. We both love pasta and travel and so many other things.

He definitely will be a lifelong friend- whether we marry or not. When God moves He makes no mistakes. He sends us people that will serve as examples to us- inspire and motivate us to do better. God’s timing is perfect.